Saturday, September 22, 2012

We've Moved!

Just so everyone's aware, we've shifted (since the name doesn't work anymore) over to Queer-Village.blogspot.com.


Come see us and bookmark us at the new address!

Friday, August 31, 2012

Just a quick followup...

Since Grandma Grahm was nice enough to send me a few pictures she snagged at the waterpark (the rest of us were too scared to pull out the electronics!) I wanted to toss them up here:

Lunch for the kids this year came in a smart little plastic lunchbox (nothing worse than soggy PB&J's), and Siddha and the rest of the kids decided to keep theirs as souvenirs.


Somewhere in this pile is Daddy Larry (me!) and Tre. We were warming up after some time in the Lazy River. Behind us you can see the structure that sits in front of our choice cabana location. It's a great space, very isolated from random traffic, and right by the kid's place space, so it's practically custom made for our kid-heavy family outings.

The Whirlwind Subsides

As I mentioned last post we were living in a lovely new storage unit. Well, we have put away a lot of the boxes and still have a lovely house underneath it all. The house is in the last stages of being put it to rights. I'll see if I can get Leng to walk around and snap some pictures of the place. We still need to give the guest room, meditation room and the sun room a little more love. Then we need to actually get art, family photos and knick knacks up to give it the Queer Village flavor.

We had our first house guest here - Ms. Lena from Santa Cruz and it was a lovely visit. She got to see the wild roaming packs of children we have in the house and a lot of adult hang out time with the parents. Larry and I are heading up to stay with her in early September as well so double Lena action for us. She is always wonderful to talk to and we all miss her dearly. She came with me to try out True Food while she was here - felt proper since she was here from Santa Cruz. The food was delicious and it was a nice change of pace for me. at least. We also got in some movie watching and she was here for our annual trip to Knott's Soak City

Speaking of the water park, it was a great time again. We had the Musico family (Lae Lae, Rowena and their two sons Nate & Noah), the Sangha Family (Kathy, Becky and their three daughters), Yoav (a new friend to the Village),  Luisa with her daughter Tara, and Grandma Graham. Taking our number this year to 16 people. We rented a cabana like previous years and it was delightful. The kids had an even better time this year since they have all gotten much more comfortable with water.  I will see about photos - we're still working out the roles with all the adults. Leng is our resident shutterbug and I do the blog so we need to get together and get photos of all these things to the web.

Nani has been taking swimming lessons and really put herself out there. She has been pushing herself and has made tremendous strides. She swims from one end of the pool to the other by herself and is retrieving dive toys from the bottom of the pool. It's been awesome to see her take control of the process and practice everything she gets exposed to in her lessons. We have plans for Siddha to take a swim class in the winter since she has been energized by watching Nani doing her lessons and swimming around the pool. 

We got a chance to go to Disneyland with Stephen and his family (Jen and their two kids Addy & Tanner). We drove up before dawn with the kids packed in the car and spent the day running around the park. Siddha had a blast in Toon Town seeing everything and interacting with the props there. The older kids were much more adventurous this trip and went on a significantly more rides and ones they had flat out refused to try on previous trips. They also got a chance to meet Mickey Mouse himself while we were there. Tanner and Tre bonded over lightsabers and Jedi while Nani was chatting up people left and right. As always it was great to see them and spend time with them. All the kids asked if we could see them again. 

The dads got to go to Gen Con this year and we decided to try the full convention this time by arriving on Wed night and leaving Mon afternoon. In the past we had gotten in late Thur or midday Fri and left Sun evening. It was soooo much better with the full experience. We hadn't realized how much we were trying to pack into the shorter trips and the leisurely pace of this trip has sold us on the concept of doing the full convention going forward. We ate great food and meet some entertaining people. This trip we all learned how to make chainmail and two of us (Larry and myself) learned how to make scale male. We saw a lot of vendors and got the chance to play a few fun games. We saw incredible art and great costumes while walking the convention floor. All in all a fantastic trip. 

We also had a Family Matters bonfire and potluck at Campland on the Bay. This was our first time attending and I think it was great - we will be adding it to our list of events that we attend. The kids ran around playing, made s'mores, and watched a movie under the stars with decked out in glow stick jewelry. The kids are eagerly awaiting the Halloween Festival they put on in October. The parents have starting volunteering every month to help out with the Parent Support Group that Family Matters hosts and its been a wonderful opportunity to show the kids giving back to the community and growing our connection to other LGBT families. 

That's everything for this month and as usual I will close with an invitation to visit us. We love you all and thanks for reading. 

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Queer Village Pride!

We are moved in at Degen! As I posted last month we were packing and packing and packing. We're here and it's AWESOME! Everyone has room to breathe and be. The kids are established in their bedroom and playroom upstairs. The moms and dads are happily installed in their suites with attached bathrooms. The kids have their own bathroom as well between their two rooms. We have a family room downstairs (still being put together at the moment) for games, puzzles, arts & crafts, and a media center for kid centric activities (Wii & movies). We even had enough space to set up a little computer desk area for the kids. 


The kitchen is giant with two fridges and a walk in pantry. We were able to set up a little dining nook for the kids for breakfast and homework. The dining room is set up and the living room is nearly done. The pool has been great and the kids have been loving having the access. The back yard is still needing some love but we're getting there. Front yard is under control and looking grand. Bill's office is coming along and we're all loving not having the nursery in our room anymore.


There was little anxiety over the actual move from the old houses to the new one. Siddha made the switch from crib to bed and sharing a room with her siblings instead of us fairly easily. Tre and Nani are both doing great with co-habitating and sharing parents. I think it helped we brought them most weekends to see the house while the remodel was happening so they could see the changes and really invest in the concept of the new house and blended family. I think they too were also feeling the pinch of not having enough space. 


The kids started at their new school Sunnyside and seem to be doing just fine. There was some anxiety the night before but once they met their teachers everything seem to smooth out. The principal sought us out and made sure we were doing fine. It's a small school so its a shift for us - it's much more intimate than Birney. We're hoping that we'll have a better experience here than there. Wish us luck!


Pride was this month and it was wonderful. The kids were up at the crack of dawn and excited about it. We helped them get their Pride gear on (t-shirts) then went downstairs to get the nieces up to have breakfast. Some of the dads and Becca (one of my nieces) went early to set up Rainbow Base Camp. We had a great spot to watch the parade roll by. There was music, queers and fun all day. My nieces did great at their 1st Pride Parade. Our friend Yoav also joined for the celebration. We cheered and waved - ate and drank! After the parade was done we packed up and sent one group with the kids to the Pride Festival and a smaller group to stash things in the cars.


This was the 20th anniversary of the Children's Garden and it was fabulous. They had rainbow cupcakes to celebrate. They had the usual fantastic selection of craft tables, face painting, games, dance floor and karaoke. As previous years we ate lunch there and then ventured out in pairs or triples as the kids played the day away. We walked around and found a great flag for the house. We got some Pride swag for the kids (rainbow leis) while wandering the festival. 


As before, it was great to see other families (new and old) at the Garden. As the kids get older it's great to see them taking in their culture and its history. How a decade ago we couldn't have formed the families we have now and how brave people are working to make the world a better place for our family. They understand how Drag Queens (blessed beings that they are) started all of this at Stonewall. They thinks they are heroes which they are and it pleases me to no end to hear them talk about these esteemed souls in those terms. 


My nieces were here for six weeks and while I'm sure they were bored senseless at least half of the time but it was wonderful to have them here. We went to Build-A-Bear (kind of a tradition) with the kids and let them loose on the place. We also went to see several movies including the documentary about Katy Perry which the Tre and Nani enjoyed in particular. I think it made them feel cool to go see an "older kid" movie with their cousins. Becca wowed all with her hair styling skills and delicious culinary treats. Toria is an incredible artist - we went to a ceramics studio and she was so talented. They both were great with the kids and very patient with Siddha. A great visit all around I think.


So please come down and visit us amongst all the boxes! We actually have a guest room and bath now so you can even get a break from us and the unpacking madness. I hope everyone is doing well and we miss you all!



Thursday, June 28, 2012

We MOVE!!

So I haven't been posting this month and the last month because we made the push! We are moving tomorrow into Degen FINALLY!! The remodel has finished and we are beyond excited to relocate the Queer Village!


I will try to get pictures up of the changes we made and include the original photos of the house. It's been a crazy two months to boot. We have the remodel, moved two households into one and then my nieces came for the summer and the cousins are having a blast together. The day after we move we're going to Legoland for my niece Becca's birthday so we are keeping busy.


I have to go keep packing but I wanted to throw something up here before another month rolled by. With the move we officially have a guest room and bath so after my nieces are done with their visit please call us and schedule a drop in to see us and the new house.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Spring is here!

So April was a little crazy here for me at least. I ended up going to the ER four times and it was stressful. It turns out I had a hormone imbalance and that was causing me to feel like I had mono. I was exhausted and bone tired even after sleeping for 10 hours. I was dizzy and light headed, feeling like I was barely present in my own skin. Good news is I am slowly getting back to normal but it has been a slow crawl back. Everyone in the family was very supportive and pitched in to help out. I have a few more doctor visits next month and this should be all squared away.


We had a great Easter here at the house. I will see about getting the pictures from Leng (our resident shutter bug) and get them to Flickr so you all can take a look. We decorated eggs with the kids and they had a blast doing them. They had even more fun finding them after brunch on Easter Sunday. Our brunch was well received and it was great to see the grandparents (Grandad Don, Papa Micheal, and Grandma Graham) there. 


The older kids Tre and Nani have been off for the whole month on spring break. They have been doing "school" with me for 30 mins a day, Monday through Friday. I went to Lakeshore and filled up a box with supplies (markers, dry erase books, games and art supplies) for school. I seat down with them and talked about how to set up their classroom. They gave great suggestions like a chart for stickers for when they finish assignments. I went to Target and put together a prize bucket for them to draw out at the end of each week. We have done some "field trips" to museums, parks and some lunches out. Overall I think it went well and still kept them plugged into their routine for school so when the start back up in May it will be less of a struggle to transition. Hopefully it will work.


I turned 40 this month and it was wonderful. I went to dinner with my dad to Lotus Thai along with the husbands and Monica. The food was delicious as always and I got a print of one of my dad's photos (I am one of his biggest fans of his photography) from a trip he recently went on and Monica got me a heritage DNA test from National Geographic. I am extremely excited about it - my family history is sketchy at best and frankly suspect what I have been told. This test and the database it's tied to traces your ancestry back to a continent of origin. I will post the results in the blog when I get them back.  I also went to see the new Cirque Du Soleil troupe touring through the country.


Totem was incredible! Our seats were great - we were about 4 rows back from the stage itself. It was the usual dynamic and energetic show - incredible costumes and complex music. We ate a great dinner out at Bully's just before the show. It was the dads, moms and Monica. A big part of thrill was having an all adult out night. We had great conversations and it was great to really catch up with everyone. We hit the gift shop before the show and scored some great swag. A cool scarf with pockets , finger monarch butterflies for the kids, the CD & program plus some art prints as a gift for my dad and Micheal for baby-sitting the kids so we could attend the show in the first place. 


Grandma Graham took the older kids to a matinee show of Totem the day before and they had a wonderful time. It was a great dry run to see if we could take the older kids to future shows of the Cirque. They were so excited to talk with us about the show and they were tickled pink that they saw the show before the adults. The morning after our show they talked and talked about the show with us and we pulled out the program so they could show us things and ask questions. So the next time we go we might be taking them as well.


Degen is really shaping up. They have begun the garage conversion in earnest. The sun porch is finished and just needs to be painted. They have almost completed the kitchen upgrades and the rest of the house is painted. They have done about 1/2 of the stairwell as well. We are meeting with the contractor and designer tomorrow to go over the flooring and a few more items left for the house. We are still looking at moving in to the house in June and we're checking out some solar panels for the new house and our current house - it looks promising. Apparently the technology has come a long way and is looking very affordable. I'll see if I can get Bill to take some pictures of the improvements and get them posted up for viewing.


We're still looking for a school for the kids. We are investigating the local schools near our new house. We're still in the early stages so I'll keep you posted. I think the biggest challenge is going to be overcoming the traditional attitudes of the area - we're going to be pioneers again with LGBT visibility. The question is going to be how bad it could get or how much resistance we're going to face. Wish us luck but if it is looking too grim we'll be looking at private school options .


The family is doing very well overall. We're all looking forward to the move and having more space to live and be. The idea of having a guest room is also intoxicating - we could have extended stays with friends and family (hint hint after the move come visit y'all). 


Love and kisses to everyone out there. 

Thursday, March 29, 2012

March Madness (Kind Of)

March is here and almost gone. The time has been flying here at the 54th Street Zoo. The work on Degen continues apace. The back patio is now enclosed and we have an all-weather room for entertaining and just giving us more space to breathe and be. The plans have been summated, returned and modified as per the city so we should begin the largest part of the remodel shortly - the garage into a downstairs master suite and the modifications to Monica's room. Here's hoping it goes quickly and smoothly.

The kids are doing great and we just met the other day with Tre's teacher Mrs. Curtis. He is doing wonderfully in her class. He has moved from proficient to advanced in almost every area and has a great connection to her. He really responds to her and she understands him. She has worked with him and has given us great tools to help Tre make this progress this year. He made the Honor Roll (yes they have an Honor Roll for 1st Graders) and received an award for great citizenship but we have little worries about him socially - he makes friends effortlessly.

Nani has her conference tomorrow and I'll make sure to report on her progress in the next blog for April. She is really I think getting her stride at school. While she still seems less than challenged academically but she does seem to be making progress in making and maintaining relationships with her peers. She has been very keen on spending more time with all of us together as a family which I think bodes well for the move to the new house. I think all the kids are going to enjoy (on average) living together - we see some standard sibling friction but nothing that gives us pause or undue concern.

Nani had her birthday this month and it was a great hit. Grandma Graham let us use the community pool and recreation area of her housing community. Lisa had the fabulous idea to set up a drink and juice bar so people could order their own fruit concoctions in fancy plastic ware with little umbrellas and the kids loved it as well as a few parents. There was swimming though not as much since the water was freezing but everyone made ample use of the hot tub. The Dads rented a jumpie with a built in slide and we had a piƱata as well. Top it off with great party favors and colorful decorations - that was the fete we hosted. Grammy Jo was still in town on her visit, along with all the parents, helping to make the party a roaring success.

Siddha is on the track to having a bedtime routine that mirrors the older kids. We have been altering her routine slowly like phasing out the bottle and reading more books before bedtime. Larry has started laying her down in bed rather than rocking her in the rocker in the nursery and that seems to be working as well. The hope is to have her on a routine that she can join in with the older kids. Reading a book, calming down and settling into bed then sleep. Wish us luck.

I meet tomorrow with the Upstaged Design team to finalize the last few details of the remodel. Paint colors, wood stains and fixtures. We have gotten all the things rolling that didn't require a permit and it's nice to see the end of it in sight. They built an awesome cubby for the second refrigerator in the kitchen, the enclosed patio, the fence to section off the pool and a list of small changes to the house. I have been very happy with their work and really look forward to be done and moved in.

Next month is my birthday and all the adults in the household are going to see the newest Cirque du Soliel tour Totem. My dad has offered to babysit the kids while we all go out for dinner followed by the show. It should be a wonderful night of hopefully good food, great conversation and a spectacular performance. It will be one of the rare times all the adults in the family get to socialize without the kids since usually one set of parents is watching the kids so the other set can go out.

That's all from us this month - like I put in the title it was sort of busy but nothing too crazy overall. I hope to report a move in date in the next month's post so keep your fingers crossed. As always we welcome any and all guests to come over and visit.

Love to you all!