The other day we had some friends over and their kids as well. I was running around getting some things done with kids racing around and being well kids. Katie (friend from the SC bunch) got my attention that something was up with Tre. He had sort of huddled up on the floor between the wall and the dining room table. He could only really tell us he was not okay but not much more. He's had a few nights of nightmares and just last night couldn't sleep in his room so we set him up in the living room. It's jarring since most of the time he's a happy and engaging little guy then he has these moments and we just do what we can which feels like very little unfortunately but we're trying to remember that just having an adult saying "I'm here and your safe." is a huge deal for Tre.
We met with Susan Gordon (Tre's therapist at the Chadwick Center) and really liked her. First point in her favor was her complete acceptance of the three dad situation. It's amazing how much ground people can lose with us for not rolling with it. She was right on track with what we wanted for the Boy. Play therapy and helping him establish some safety rules for his body and himself. She was attentive and gave us the time/space to talk about all of our concerns about him and took in all our information. It was nice to have someone in a professional position listen to us for a change about Tre. She was very clear about how therapy may or may not affect Tre and left all of us with a strong sense of him being in good hands.
Regina and Don have been awesome (a trend they have really held strong to with Tre) with their newest grandson. Don took him sailing (check Flcker for the shots) and Tre is still talking about going on the boat. Regina has been sending regular care packages of books and educational things to Tre and we're planning a trip to her house to introduce him to the piano since he has a fondness for singing and dancing. I have been so happy and thankful for the space and time they have made in their lives for him. Thank you both so much!
We just had a run of birthdays this month (Saul, Lisa, Dan, Larry, Toria, Don - the list goes on) and just went out to dinner last night at the Corvette Diner (50s style place) for Lisa's birthday. The kids (Nani, Nia and Tre) had a blast with the loud music and colorful staff. Straws were woven into hair, bubble gum thrown through the air and some dancing made the night perfect for active toddlers. I'll try to get the picture up from that event later this week. We have my dad Don's party on Saturday night where a lot of his friends will meet Tre for the first time.
Add to the birthday mix some Halloween fun as well. We're going to the Boo Parade & Carnival this Saturday morning where the Boy will be none other than The Batman! We're going with the Caloh family to check it out and eat some yummy carnival food. The later that afternoon we have a rare opportunity to spend some time with Tre's foster siblings who were adopted by a friend of our friend Lae Lae(six degrees). She is hosting a get together and dinner with other parents and their kids. So busy weekend for us Stouder-Studenmunds.
That's it from the Zoo and as always feel free to call, write or visit. :)
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