Tre's Big Weekend

Last weekend the Boy had a packed social schedule. We started on Saturday morning with getting him dressed up as The Batman for the Boo Parade & Carnival so we headed out. He had his three urban fairy dads in tow and met his Auntie Lisa, Auntie Leng and Nani on the parade route. Unfortunately the parade was a little slow to start so we only got to watch the first 15 to 20 minutes of it. Check out the Flcker page over the next couple days for the uploaded photos from the morning.

Then from the parade we went down to the carnival for lunch and to ride some rides. We ate some yummy food only available at carnivals. Larry took Tre to the rides to have some fun while adults rested and chatted. He came back happy and excited to be out and about. Then from there we headed home for a power nap back at the house. The Boy got up from his nap and we got him dressed to go to the park for a playdate with some other Queer dads and their kids at the park.

So the back story here for the gathering is that our friends Lae Lae & Rowena knew two other parents who adopted kids from the same foster home that Tre was at. In fact some of them were staying there at the same time Tre was. It was a small world in Queertown. We met Bill, Fransico and Laurie (sp?) that day. It was incredible to hang out with another non-black dad with black adoptive kids. We shared stories and swapped hair/skin care tips. We also got more insight into Tre and his foster mom Lynn that was invaluable. It was great to have a space to talk about the unique issues faced by queer parents adopting with the county. It was also humbling to meet single dads & moms raising kids with grace, poise and compassion. I tip my hat to Bill, Fransico and Laurie for the incredible effort they put into their kids everyday.

So if getting us together wasn't a gift in of itself, Lae Lae & Rowena went that extra mile (as usual) as hosts and has us all for dinner over at their house. Yummy homemade pizza (Laurie was also slinging cheese and dough as well), salad and some dessert including home baked finger cookies (very Halloween themed), ice cream and fresh fruit. The kids played, made music and had a blast playing for several hours. The adults got a chance to talk more and bond. It was a great time and fantastic dinner. We're hoping we've made new friends from the evening.

After that (oh yes there is more) we left there and went to my dad's 49th birthday party at his condo in Hillcrest. We arrived and the Boy became the belle of the ball. He had the whole room playing with him and he practically glowed from the attention he got over the next couple of hours. It was great to watch my dad in his first public appearance as Grandad Don and the obvious pride and love he felt for Tre. It only reaffirmed my pride and love for the Queer culture; where we gladly take outsiders, outcasts and the unwanted and make them family. There is a wealth of love and praise for people that we fold into our community. Once again I am so thankful to have found my tribe and to be able to introduce my son to them as well.

So after that we finally headed home to our house and peeled the Boy off the roof of the car ( to say he was stimulated would not do his state justice) and took him in to go to bed. He slept then got several hours of daddy time the next morning. He then went with his Aunties (Lisa & Leng) to a children's birthday party where he proceeded to play, play and play. He went back to their house and we picked him up that night. So all in all it was action packed for him. It was a good test run for the next weekend which will be Halloween and a costume wedding (Dan & Megan's) and our house getting some major plumbing renovations. Wish us luck.